I recently had a conversation with someone who told me that my values may cost me companionship.

I work in the entertainment industry and I value an intimate partner relationship. I look forward to this type of union one day as it's a space to build, grow and evolve with someone. I believe that honoring your relationship means being respectful of your partner's needs and wants. And yes it had to do with cheating! 

Being told that my wants and needs are not realistic was disheartening to hear but I stand firm in my belief that there is someone who fits me and will honor me, regardless of my career choice. 

Being a woman with particular values can be challenging due to the nature of society that oversexualizes us, so hearing that my wants in my partner weren't possible to be met wasn't comforting at all. I had to turn to a few trusted friends who helped reassure me that the model of what a woman is supposed to be like isn't fit into one mold and that there are men who won't cheat. 

Is this really what is to be expected in relationships? One partner turns a blind eye to indiscretions and expects the other to remain calm, and collected, all the while honoring a lie through a double life? If this is the standard, then I accept my solo path and exit from this life! I will gladly accept solitude. 

I do not accept a standard that calls for disrespect. Granted, if there is an understanding in a couple's relationship that there will be outside affairs, then go ahead and live your life! I expect to respect, trust, and integrity in how we move. Otherwise, please keep it moving. We're not for the part-time love affairs here! 

Truly,

LiCi